الوسم: expecting

I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations
and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
―Bruce Lee

The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations.
This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others.
Tempering your expectations of other people will greatly reduce unnecessary frustration and suffering,
in both your life and theirs, and help you refocus on the things that truly matter.

Which means it’s time to…

. 1Stop Expecting them to agree with you.

You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about. Don’t let the opinions
of Others make you forget that. You are not in this world to live up to the expectations of others,
nor Should you feel that Others are here to live up to yours.

You have to dare to be yourself, and follow you own intuition, however frightening or strange
that may feel or prove to be. Don’t compare yourself to others. Don’t get discouraged by
their progress or success. Follow your own path and stay true to your own purpose.
Success is ultimately about spending your life happily in your own way.

. Stop Expecting them to respect you more than you respect yourself.

True strength is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles. It’s about having faith and trust in who you are,
and a willingness to act upon it. Decide this minute to never again beg anyone for the love,
respect, and attention that you Should be showing yourself.

Today, look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you, and From now on I’m going to act like it.”
It’s important to be nice to others, but it’s even more important to be nice to yourself.
When you practice self-love and self-respect, you give yourself the opportunity to be

. Stop Expecting (and needing) them to like you.

You might feel unwanted and unworthy to one person, but you are priceless to another.
Don’t ever forget your worth. Spend time with those who value you. No matter how good you
are to people, there will always be one negative person who criticizes you.
Smile, ignore them, and carry on.

. Stop Expecting them to fit your idea of who they are.

Loving and respecting Others means allowing them to be themselves. When you Stop Expecting people
to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM.

Pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. We don’t know most people half as well as we believe we do; and truly knowing someone is a big part of what makes them wonderful.
Every human being is remarkable and beautiful; it just takes a patient set of eyes to see it.
The more you get to know someone, the more you will be able to look beyond their appearance
and see the beauty of who they truly are. .)

. Stop Expecting them to know what you’re thinking.

People can’t read minds. They will never know how you feel unless you tell them.
Your boss? Yeah, he doesn’t know you’re hoping for a promotion
because you haven’t told him yet. .

In life, you have to communicate with Others regularly and effectively. And often, you have to open
your vocal cords and speak the first words. You have to tell people what you’re thinking.
It’s as simple as that.

. Stop Expecting them to suddenly change

If there’s a specific behavior someone you care about has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably
won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so
this person knows how you feel and what you need them to do.

For the most part though, you can’t change people and you shouldn’t try. Either you accept who
they are or you choose to live without them. It’s might sound harsh, but it’s not. When you try
to change people, they often remain the same, but when you don’t try to change them – when
you support them and allow them the freedom to be as they are – they gradually change
in the most beautiful way. Because what really changes is the way you see them. .

. Stop Expecting them to be “OK.”

Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle, just like you.
Every smile or sign of strength hides an inner struggle every bit as complex
and extraordinary as your own.

Remember that embracing your light doesn’t mean ignoring your dark. We are measured by our ability
to overcome adversities and insecurities, not avoid them. Supporting, sharing and making contributions
to other people is one of life’s greatest rewards. This happens naturally if we allow it, because
we all share very similar dreams, needs and struggles. Once we accept this, the world then
is a place where we can look someone else in the eye and say, “I’m lost and struggling at the moment,”
and they can nod and say, “Me too,” and that’s OK. Because not being
“OK” all the time, is perfectly OK.

Afterthoughts